Getting Past Your Looks And Creating Attraction

A tremendous issue I deal with when it comes to my students is this: the looks issue. Several of them think they are just too ugly to attract a nice looking woman.

It's an insecurity that comes in all sorts of masks. Some examples:

Some guys think they're too old.

Some think they're too fat.

Some think they're too short.

Some think they're too ugly.

Because of this, these men feel they are helpless when it comes to getting the kind of woman they desire.

But lucky for all of us - this simply isn't the case.

I want to take a moment and dispell a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.

Myth #1 - You have to be good looking to get women.

All you have to do is look around at the various types of guys in this world who are dating gorgeous women to know that this isn't the case.

Here's one of my rules of thumb: It's important to look good. It's NOT important to be good looking!

What's the difference?

You can't make yourself good looking- that's genetics (though some plastic surgeons might argue this.) You DO have utter control how you present yourself. Your clothing, grooming, haircut, body odor, etc..

All these appearance factors contribute to "looking good."

Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.

Myth #2 - Women Think Like Men Do

It's natural to assume that everyone else in the world sees things the same way you see them.

For instance - If you've ever had a pimple on your forehead that felt so big, it was like everyone could see it. But the pimple was under the skin, and in reality, no one but you could tell it was there.

To you, it was clear as day. To everyone else, it was hardly noticable.

When it comes to appraising other people, this methodology is typically applied. You judge a woman based on how she looks, right? You're able to size a woman up visually and determine whether or not you find her attractive, correct?

So naturally, you assume women are going to size you up the same exact way.

WRONG.

Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That's not to say they don't care if a man is attractive or not. But they don't place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.

Women base their attraction on a broader range of things. How a man makes her feel is of utmost importance. Confidence, and social status in turn, are huge attractors. So is a man who can make her laugh. They are enthralled by a man who is good at what he does. And NONE of that has to do with looks!