Traits In A Man That Attract Women

What advice is best for attracting the opposite sex? How would I know for sure that I can believe that this information works? If you want to know how to attract the opposite sex, you might refer to the science of evolution to get the answers.

Let's just put aside for the moment what women say they desire in a man. Instead, we will simply observe the kinds of choices that they actually make. The contrast between what they say they want and their actions reveal a lot.

There are women who say they want a man who listens to them and values their opinions. But then go out with guys that control the conversation. Some women say they would like a sensitive and gentle man. But they'll date a guy who's got a lot of money or has a large muscular physique.

Why all the discrepancies between what they tell us and who they choose? This paradox can be understood if you understand the true nature of attraction and how it was built into us by evolution.

First, understand that attraction isn't something that you can write down as kind of wish list. Women as well as men have little control over the 'chemistry' of attraction. This 'chemistry' is an instinctual drive placed in us by evolution in order to propagate our species.

Men are interested in women that are healthy and fertile. This is the reason why women who are youthful with curves of a certain proportion are considered attractive by most men. Youth and a shapely body are the signs of high fertility. Some guys might say that they're more interested in other qualities, but they're still driven by instinctual urges toward fertile women.

When it comes to the chemistry of sexual attraction, women too are governed by some very basic instincts. Women are naturally drawn to men who can be a good provider for her children. Therefore they are drawn to fit and vigorous men who have a high status. A fit man with high status will be better able to provide for the needs of her children.

Men of high status are the leaders who are confident and take charge. They're the alpha males or the 'real men' that women refer to. That's why big muscles and wealth or power are more attractive than being nice or being a good listener.

When all of humanity where hunter/gatherers, being a good listener or being nice to our women was irrelevant to survival. What truly mattered more than all else was having the vigor and backbone to bring home the bacon. Only these qualities made it possible for a man to be a good provider.

Now it's easy to understand why women aren't drawn to nice guys. Or guys that lack confidence and are unable to take charge. These are not sexy qualities for a man to have.

Today, having big muscles isn't all that necessary if you project strength and vigor in other ways. This can be done by the clothing that you choose to wear, how you carry yourself and your physical fitness. Strength is also conveyed in the way that you behave around people. A wuss is not appealing.

Many would say that the qualities of attraction are superficial. And in a way, that is right. But keep in mind that sexual attraction is also superficial. It's very old, primitive, and very basic in nature. It's a potent force that drives us all and has maintained the propagation of our species.

While women are drawn by the qualities described here, they don't help at building long term relationships. But that's another subject. Before a relationship is possible though, you'll need to know how to attract her first.