How You Move: The Body Language Of Flirting

Unfortunately, a good portion of men don't understand how non verbal flirting, over the verbal part, is a greater part of the whole flirt, and they blow it before they even speak to a woman.

So we need to make sure that doesn't happen to you. Let's take a look at some parts of the equation of flirting here.

Generally, flirting starts with eye contact.

So say you look at a girl, and she looks directly back at you. Wow, that can be uncomfortable huh? That depends entirely on you and how you feel about yourself.

If you feel good about yourself, then this is exhilarating. If that's not the case, it can be really scary.

Let's just say you are comfortable with yourself. The rush happens, and she holds the gaze a bit too long. This generally is a good sign.

If she doesn't meet your gaze, then it probably means she's not interested. Or, it could mean she's very shy or insecure in her surroundings. Many people are intimidated by large clubs. She might be.

Watch her. Is she refusing to make eye contact with others around her? If so it could be one of the issues stated above.

Moving on, let's see what the eye contact says. Does she break eye contact, then look again? That's a good sign, but it doesn't mean rush up to her immediately.

If she smiles, it's a VERY good sign!

Before you rush in and start looking for the signs, take some time to learn this process. Often, we'll have the wrong of it when starting something new, as we have an idea of how these situations work, but don't really know them. Take the time to learn about this.

Sometimes, you'll get a full on stare and smile, but when you arrive, you'll get a cold response. This is NOT your fault, so don't think you did something wrong.

What happened there? I can't say, but I can make an educated guess based on the surroundings. Sometimes women are incorrigible flirts who are actually in a relationship. They just like the thrill of flirting, and their men don't mind. And so on and so forth.

Take a positive position with what you did. That's the key to success throughout the flirting stage.

Once you reach the flirtee, you should initiate the conversation. You know she's at least interested in speaking to you, so don't worry about "blowing it". That will only lead to a self fulfilling prophecy.

After the introduction, when you start to speak, there is an interaction between you and her that is natural, and is accepted almost universally. Once you begin speaking, eye contact will be broken by the speaker, looking back when it feels natural. Overall, when you are speaking, you'll be looking at her half the time, give or take. Keep it short, as this is bantering, and gaze at her when you are done speaking. That's the cue for her to talk.

At that point, she'll more than likely respond the same way. Now, when she is speaking, glance at her more than you were while talking. This shows you are interested in what she is saying. Make the looks brief, but you should be looking at her about two thirds of the time while she's talking.

This takes practice, but in time, you'll hone down this skill to a sharp edge, and have a whole different outlook on flirting!